When you hear any man make this statement, he has placed himself in a lofty position where he is ready to fight to his last- He won’t let anyone strip him of his pride.
What usually happens next? I’ve seen the way it usually plays out. Most of the time, the individual showing great importance gets disgraced. Pride is like a little devil, it wouldn’t want you to give up even when it has calculated your chances of winning as zero.
Although it’s good to have pride (reasonable amount of self respect), not the usual swell-headedness we see around. Many people mistake one for the other, which is very unfortunate- It has left some to wallow in complacency thinking it is self satisfactory. If we let negative pride take over us, we become like the world’s ugliest plant (Welwitschia mirabilis).
If you would ask my opinion, I think, to be somebody, you have to be nobody. What do I mean? If you think you’re the best, you’ll never meet someone better which means you would never get to learn to be better. If you feel you’re the prettiest girl, you would probably wallow in your fountain of hideous beasts. If you think people cannot do without you, then you would most likely be left alone in your ignorance. If you feel you can’t make out time for others or you’re too busy for them, others would equally not have time for you. The universe is not selfish, we always in a way or the other get the same energy we give out.
The final thing I would like you to keep in mind is, people with this negative type of energy never like each other. So, try as much as possible to keep away from bad energy, learn, learn and learn! Above all, build self worth.
Spread your wings
In short, exploration. Finding your inner self, or like some would say “realizing your gift.” It sounds easy but trust me, it’s not. It involves you leaving your comfort zone, doing things you never thought of doing, which could include things you don’t have interest in. When you limit your mind to only what you enjoy doing, you are just doing what you’re used to and staying firm in your comfort zone. Personally, I find it boring following the same time table of events for 7 days, non-stop. Imagine what the world would’ve been like if we all did the same thing, wore the same type of clothes, listened to the same type of music, had the same gift/talent, spoke the same way, Et cetera. We would have been living in a perfectly tinted bubble. Shameful as it would have been, we might not really have had people bring out their full potentials, learn how to be better at what they do, learn new skills or even rise to the level of true stardom because all we would’ve ever had would be impractical copycats. The world needs originality at the expense of time. Time and unforeseen circumstances take place leaving us at the wrong place at times.
What must we do to spread our wings despite time and whatever circumstance that may come our way? Keep reading, keep observing, keep learning. Don’t stop at that, keep looking for every opportunity to try something new. Keep an open mind, always be ready to learn from others. Don’t allow ego make you chase bubbles with the thought of it being a star.
My experience with a wonderful roommate
There’s nothing worse than living with someone whose ideas and lifestyle doesn’t correlate with yours. Accomodation gets very tough most of the time, leaving poor students unlucky. Some even say having a roommate is like getting married- it has it’s fun days, the days of drama are also constant. Unluckily for me, I was blessed with an egocentric individual for a roommate. Oh my goodness! I wonder how I coped at times. He was so full of himself, he didn’t care about anyone else. I was always willing to sacrifice for us both but when he had something, he would rather hoard it. When I summoned up courage to tell him how he has been messing up, Something slapped me back to reality- I was reminded that I’m squatting.
It became crazy when I had to stay out because he had a girl come over without informing me. It happened for times uncountable. As much as I got angry, what could I have done? Obviously, you can’t say much when you’ve little or no power over a situation. You must be wondering how I dealt with the situation. Well, I did nothing!
I had to leave for sometime to regain the lost value. I knew coming back wouldn’t change anything but what option did I have. Are we going to talk about the days he acted like the boss? It feels like the world is about to end when it comes to doing the dishes. Is it the day he put mosquito coil in the room which almost choked us to our ends? Series of strange events would make you think he is mad or possessed. Well, I’m happy it’s a thing of the past now. If you like your sanity and don’t want drama in your life, make sure you understand the person you want to live with.
Many of you must have your own funny experiences. Feel free to share in the comment section. 🤗
Something must kill a man #5
“It’s time to take responsibility of your life, you’re a man now.” “You would soon be in your husband’s house.”
Some are used to hearing those above statements. After school, what next? Jokes apart, have you given it a serious thought?
Many have felt that when the time comes they’ll cross the bridge. This isn’t something they teach in school, not taught at home either. People just tend to give their advice on what they think would work out for you but it’s left to you to decide what you really want.
Right from the beginning, like the title of this series has conveyed; ‘Something must kill a man.’
Life is full of pressures- Some major, some minor. What keeps us floating or drowning is our response to these certain pressures of life. The general response of everyone when pressure comes is to either stand tall and face it or run away. In case you’re wondering: “When all this wahala go end?” (when would all of these troubles go away?), it never ends until our oxygen on earth has been extinguished.
There’s no need to feel like the pressure is too much or back down now. The reason is because we all have been struggling since we were birthed- You probably have forgotten when you struggled to walk, struggled to speak, struggled to have an identity, struggles kept coming in several forms and you kept on winning and getting better why does it have to be different now?
Whatever may be the struggle you’re facing now; money, school, social life, peer pressure, or whatever the case may be, Now is the time to face it. Start doing whatever you have to do get those things that are making you feel inadequate but not at the cost of your sanity or value. Chase your sanity, chase spirituality, chase skills, chase connection, chase self improvement, chase value and watch other things aptly fall in place. Remember that you’re a survivor, you’re not the type that easily backs down from a fight, you face it!
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