Something must break a lady #2

It feels good to be back. I’m here again to say my piece and leave. I’ll be discussing a problem that many ladies don’t view as a problem. Please, stop leaving guys on read. 

Now, some of you, baptized with stubbornness, would say, “It’s normal na.” Well, I hate to break it to you, but it isn’t. I’ve noticed that many ladies are so thirsty for attention that they regularly feel the need to trap a lot of guys in their DMs to feel special. Therefore, many guys are piling in her DMs and also, in real life, waiting for her. 

I’ve read several stories of men having to chase a lady for a very long period. What do you benefit from this process? You’re not awarded any trophy for placing guys on hold. It is just refined manipulation.

The funny thing is, the same ladies that do this would complain boldly about a guy doing the same. If you don’t want anything to do with a guy, free him. He is not your prisoner. “He is cool,” “He has money,” “I want to see if I made the right choice,” “I like A, but B is also not a bad choice.” 

C’mon, you can’t have it both ways. It is not complicated, but your undying love for attention wants them all. Tag a guy along and then leave him in a trance; it seems to be working well for most ladies. Well, it doesn’t last. 

Eventually, people find out their value in your life and decide where they want to be. Although, sadly, some don’t —Talmbout a guy chasing a lady for a long period, and she keeps curving him, flashing red lights, and giving green handouts. A guy that doesn’t know his value will keep hanging around to seek her approval. The lady, on the other hand, feels on top of her game. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying it’s bad to feel valued as a lady, but things might not go the way you expect. You might think you’re in control, only to have your ass handed to you on a platter. As it’s important to feel the way you want, you have to also remember that people’s feelings are involved. 

Ask yourself as a lady if this is a risk worth taking because the consequences may not be likable. It’s noteworthy to know that our perceived strengths may turn into weaknesses.