Feelings & the cold truth: EP 1

In this part of the world where I live, it’s like a sin for ladies to open up/ confess their feelings to a guy. Let’s be frank, is it a bad thing to be interested in someone and tell the person you like’em? Many girls I’ve spoken to would say it’s bad, the guy would take advantage of you.. bla bla blah. The truth is, personally, I would go nuts for a girl that is bold enough to tell me what’s on her mind. Let’s leave ego aside, some guys are shy- He’s interested in you as much as you’re interested in him but he doesn’t have enough confidence, while the girl on the other hand, feels she’s too top notch or she doesn’t want to get looked down on. Result? Two people acting Romeo and Juliet from a distance.
The ladies should note. There is a huge difference between opening up to a guy and chasing him. There are levels to this thing. What most girls have said about guys looking down on them or taking advantage of them is not as a result of telling him how you feel. You’re getting it wrong because you’re chasing him. As humans, we wish for things we don’t have, it is also in some place in our subconscious to give value to things we don’t see everyday. We feel the farther away, the more valuable it is. So, ladies, never chase a guy. I have fallen into this trap- In my secondary school days, I had this girl that was all on my mind. She was sporty, fine, brilliant, just more than what I imagined. I opened up, told her how I feel about her. Such titillating experience, shit was mind blowing to the extent that I messed it up. I started chasing, then she started withdrawing.
The problem with chasing is, we become too clingy and so selfish that we put ourselves above every other thing in the person’s life when we haven’t even bothered to know if they’re ready to go down that journey with us. Another disadvantage of chasing is the way it makes us feel about ourselves. It can drown your self esteem and belittle your confidence. The best advice I can give to any lady is, never feel too big or cheap to make an effort in getting what you want. Although, what you want might not want you back but at least you tried, instead of holding back and letting your ego kill your confidence.
What can help? Moderate the attention you give him- He has to know the value of your time. Don’t beat around the bush- There’s no guy that doesn’t love to be around a woman who knows what she wants. While it’s okay to feel and fantasize, don’t spill all the juice in one day. Take your time, guys also love adventure- I mean, who doesn’t?